So I work in a supermarket. This seems to mean that people think that you are pretty dumb. As if no one of average or above average intelligence could work in a supermarket. I do find that frustrating and insulting, however, I have bigger issues with people thinking I can’t do things because I’m female. Maybe it’s to do with my build as well, I’m not tall or muscular, but either way, I am capable.
I am insulted when people ask if I can ‘get someone to help them get something’. What am I? Useless? When I ask if I can help them, I generally hear ‘well I’m not sure if you’ll be able to. It’s up pretty high’ or ‘it’s pretty heavy, are you sure you can?’. We do have ladders, so yes, I will be able to reach it. And I’ve been hoisting cartons of drinks over my head for years, I’m sure I can handle it. I’m sure these people are just trying to be thoughtful but sometimes it is so insulting.
I had a classic today. This woman came up to me and said she was looking for one of the ‘fellows’, but couldn’t find anyone. I asked her what she was after and it was lightbulbs. I said that I probably knew as much if not more about the lightbulbs than the boys. I hope she misheard me because her response was ‘I doubt that’. Offended much? I hope she misheard me, that’s what I am choosing to believe anyway. And I’m not being nobby about my knowledge of lightbulbs, I do the ranging and the orders, and I know what the differences are, and what all of the new equivalents are (with the energy saving requirements). Most of the time if a customer has a query about bulbs I get called to help.
Amazingly enough, I was able to assist her with her query and provide her with the correct fitting, wattage and brightness. I’m sure she thought that I had given her a bum steer and that she’d have to bring it back, but I guess only time will tell.
The point of this post is to remind you all not to assume what people are capable of based on their appearance. I’m sure we all do it from time to time, and if you do, maybe try not to make it too obvious?